I came across a wonderfully written account on something that weighs on my heart every day. When you have your first born you document everything and watch impatiently for each milestone to occur. The second child, unfortunately, doesn't quite get the same attention, not because he is less loved, but because life is crazy, to put it mildly. Here is what one mom wrote, more eliquently than I could ever do.
"We are in the exam room, waiting for the pediatrician. I’m nuzzling the soft baby skin on my son’s tummy and my daughter is chanting, “That’s funny. Brother’s cute on the table!” The doctor, who likes to refer to my giant son as “Moose,” opens the door and says, “Well I see you are enjoying him. That’s good!”Polaroid would have us believe we can capture the moment. But like a tender embrace with an active child, baby milestones are ephemeral.My husband’s grandfather, “The Colonel,” may he rest in peace, liked to sing at family gatherings: “Enjoy yourself, it’s later than you think…” No sooner will baby reach one milestone than he’ll be moving onto the next–catch me if you can, Mommy!You may record first steps and digitally replicate and broadcast them to doting relatives, but the magic of the moment is fleeting, as swift-footed as your newly minted toddler.With my second child, I prefer to see milestones more as guide posts than goal posts: signals of adventures and opportunities that await, rather than benchmarks of expected developmental progress.My favorites are the light bulb moment milestones, like when he suddenly grabs a chubby foot or focuses on a pudgy hand and realizes, “Hey, that’s part of me.”I may not reach for the baby development book, or even the camera, as quickly, but I stare, too, trying to memorize the look of surprise, wonderment, and concentration.My second child’s milestones may be less scrutinized and documented, but no less celebrated."
1. Carter is my cuddle bug. He is perfectly content to sit on my hip and watch life from that vantage point. He will nuzzle my hair and dig his head comfortable under my chin and coo. His little hands will caress my cheeks as he settles into a cozy position.2. He absolutely LOVES Evan. Everyone and everything else becomes non-existent when he locks his eyes on his big bro. He will sit and observe, laughing periodically at Evan as Evan entertains us.3. He is stubborn!! He has a routine and heaven forbid any of us try to change that.4. He is getting mobile. He has figured out that he can get from point A to point B by rolling to get there. Most of the time he rolls around the whole room before getting to point B but he eventually gets there.5. He hasn't quite realized that he can bear his own weight on those chunky legs of his. He is content to sit in his excer-saucer with his knees up and hang while he plays with the toys.6. He loves to hear his own voice. He sometimes will be right in the middle of a crying fit and just starting randomly cooing.7. He loves to grab at anything and everything that comes accross his line of sight - a rattle, mom's hair, a hot cup of coffee, Evan.8. He loves the car seat. YEAH! This one is a little selfish but it does make running errands a little bit easier without a screaming baby (cough cough Evan).9. He will stare you down until you acknowledge him. All of a sudden you will feel two eyes on you and the moment you turn to him, his face lights up and he gives you an incredible toothless grin. Then fusses if you choose to walk away.10. He thinks he is a big kid like Evan and only needs one nap a day (when Evan goes down). He will doze a little bit in the morning and in the late afternoon but refuses to sleep unless Evan is asleep.