That is what Jeremy said to me today as we watched Evan finish his first round of Ice Skating Lessons. We laughed about Evan not needing me often (he insists on having Daddy the majority of the time) but when it comes to situations where he stresses out, he definitely relies on me more than anyone else. I am the firm one. TRUST! He trusts me and knows that I will be firm yet protective of him. Yep, I am the "iron fist" in this family. You see when I was away last week, Babci and Jeremy had to take Evan to class, where he proceeded to cry and want off the ice. I really felt horrible about leaving for the weekend - just because Evan did have a class and I know how much he needs consistency in his routine. But at the same time, I needed to get away and I just prayed that the previous 4 lessons wouldn't be undone, with me not being there.
So today I helped him on the ice and he turned around with his lip quivering while trying to get off the ice and I shook my head no and said "you will stay on the ice, Evan! You can do this" and sure enough once he knew that I was firm, he skated on out there and enjoyed himself. There was a moment of stress when he didn't see me up in the stands, but like a nerd I stood up and waved my arms and he immediately relaxed. We even got a few smiles and a couple of waves.
He came out of the lesson, grinning ear to ear, with his certificate in hand.
"I am so proud of you Evan!"
He proceeded to smile and show me what he had earned.
"Your class is finished, but since you did such a great job, would you like Mommy to sign you up for the next set of classes?"
"Ummm, no mom," Evan replied casually.
"Well sweetheart, you can't play hockey unless you continue your lessons," I immediately explained knowing how much he wants to play hockey.
"Well Mom, I don't want to play hockey then." Evan said unconcerned.
"Hmmm, well, Mommy is going to go ahead and sign you up for the next round of classes." I quickly said nonchalantly.
"Okay mom. That's fine."
And there you have it. I won't let him wuss out :-)! After all, he is his Mother's child!