I love Kelly's Show Us Your Life series. Well I just love Kelly. So when I was browsing the schedule of post ideas I knew I could definitely do this one!! As you know, or may not know (if you are visiting from Kelly's site) I have 2 beautiful (I can say that right?) boys!!
Evan is my oldest and of course my first born. When Jeremy and I decided to get pregnant, I was still teaching and planned on teaching one more year to help Jeremy get his dream of owning his own business a reality. I had it all planned out. I read all the books which said that you should plan on a few months, on average, to get pregnant. So I got the calendar out and wanted to have a baby right around Spring Break so I could take the rest of the school year off. So I counted backwards and figured out that I needed to become pregnant around June. So we started trying in April. Well, to all of our surprise, it took only one try. And before I knew it was pregnant!! So my plans on taking the rest of the year off, didn't end up that way.
Any mom can attest that your first pregnancy - the one that makes you a mom - is surreal. Every morning on the way to work (I had a 30 minute commute) I would pray and thank God for this little amazing life He was growing inside of me. Jeremy and I began scouring all the Name Books almost immediately. Because unfortunately, we didn't really have any "family" names to pass down from a previous generation.
As a teacher, naming your own children is the absolute hardest thing to do, because you have known so many children. And by all means, you don't want to name your child the same name as the "trouble maker" or the "kid that bounced off the walls" or "the kid that bugged you severely" or the "name of the moment" so when he/she got up to grade school there would be 4 of them in their class alone. Come on, just telling it like it is. Us teachers are human too :-)!
We knew we were having a boy. And about 8 weeks before my due date, we were again spending some time one afternoon arguing discussing options. I decided to do one last search and I am so glad I did. I found it!!
"God is Good"! Everything that I wanted to sum up, all in one name: Evan! I knew at that moment, that my beautiful gift from God, the One who made him, would be named Evan.
Taste and see that the Lord is good; blessed is the man who takes refuge in him.
I will praise you forever for what you have done;
in your name I will hope, for your name is good.
I will praise you in the presence of your saints.
We were lucky in the fact that my dad's middle name and Jeremy's dad's middle name were the same, so Evan got to be named after both his grandpas! Evan Charles.
Although after trying so hard to find a unique name, every time we go to the park I hear "Evan" and it isn't my child who is being spoken to. So I guess he will be Evan L. in his class ;-)! I had rarely heard of the name "Evan" and never had an Evan. And out all the teachers I had worked with, there was only ever one Evan. But I guess, I wasn't the only one that thought the name was awesome!!
On to Carter... Let's face it, every child after the first one, is lucky to get named. Ha ha, just joking, sorta! We knew Carter was also going to be a boy! And again we had a hard time finding a name that we both agreed upon. We had a full list of names that neither Jeremy nor I could agree on. Names that we didn't even have on the original list 18 months prior - all new names. I wanted to find a name that had great spiritual meaning but after the ordeal with Evan's name, I knew that the odds of finding another one would be slim, so I started finding names that I liked and not necessarily with grand meaning.
When Jeremy and I discussed the name "Carter", we both liked it! But there was one thing that kept us from immediately choosing it! The meaning! The meaning of Carter is "man who carts". Yep, oh the mommy guilt! But I loved the name. I mean, loved it!!
Even when we first told my parents that we had most likely decided on a name, I recall my dad saying something to the effect of, "No grandson of mine will be named after Jimmy Carter. Reagan, yes! Carter, absolutely not!" Sorry dad! The name stood.
But, because of the great mommy guilt I was having, I decided that I would find a middle name that had some great meaning. Because you know, the only family name that was acceptable was already taken by the oldest heir.
I again scoured the name books and the Bible. I didn't want to go with the usual names from the Bible. I did want something unique enough but had a great story behind it.
Even up to Carter's birth, we hadn't decided on a middle name. I remember laughing about it and discussing it with Jeremy, my mom and Tricia, while waiting in the delivery room. We had several names picked out and so the great debate had begun, all while waiting for the little guy to come out!
We finally chose the name Solomon. Based on his request of wisdom when God asked him what he wanted most.
1 Kings 3:5-14:
At Gibeon the Lord appeared to Solomon during the night in a dream, and God said, 'Ask for whatever you want me to give you.'
Solomon answered, 'You have shown great kindness to your servant, my father David, because he was faithful to you and righteous and upright in heart. You have continued this great kindess to him and have given him a son to sit on his thrown this very day.
Now, O Lord my God, you have your servant king in place of my father David. But I am only a little child and do not know how to carry out my duties. Your servant is here among the people you have chosen a great people, too numerous to count or number. So give your servant a discerning heart to govern your people and to distinguish between right and wrong. For who is able to govern this great people of your?'
The Lord was pleased that Solomon had asked for this. So God said to him, 'Since you have asked for this and not for long life or wealth for yourself, nor have asked for the death of your enemies but for discernment in administering justice, I will do what you have asked. I will give you a wise and discerning heart, so that there will never have been anyone like you, nor will there ever be. Moreover, I will give you what you have not asked for-both riches and honor - so that in your lifetime you will have no equal among kings. And if you walk in my ways and obey my statutes and commands as David your father did, I will give you a long life.
Unfortunately, Solomon did not obey God. He compromised and tolerated idolatry. God's gift of wisdom did not guarantee that Solomon would always persist in godliness; for this reason God emphasized "if you walk in my ways". Although in the end Solomon isn't the greatest example of what I would want Carter to grow up and reflect, Solomon's story is one that hopefully will teach Carter the importance of walking in God's ways. And his name will always remind him (hopefully) that God can grant wisdom and discernment if he asks Him and walks in his ways.
The funny thing is, we have had so many people ask us if we are Jewish or have Jewish heritage based on Carter's name. Silly people!
I have even tried to connect my maiden name with it also. My maiden name begin with "Sol" and my first initial is C, just like Carter's :-). Although it is a great coincidence, not really the main reason for choosing it!
So there you have it! How we named our kids!