This isn't a question we hear ever at our house. Well I guess I can't say "never" after last week. We have a little girl, who recently moved in down the street. She has taken a liking to coming over to our house quite a bit. She is somewhat of a tomboy and the boys enjoy playing baseball, basketball and climbing trees with her.
But last week after a bout of sports playing, the girl side of her came out. She asked Evan if he wanted her to bring over her doll house. Evan, clueless what a doll house was, said, "Sure."
I immediately ran inside to get the camera and take notes on this occasion, knowing that I would thoroughly enjoy telling Jeremy what his boys did that day. HA!
So their friend brought over her doll house and some dolls. She was thoughtful enough to bring over a boy doll for Evan.
Evan took one look at the doll and immediately excused himself to go get some other items to play with. He came back out with his hard hat on and a car. He then proceeded to pretend that he was working on the yard around the doll house. His friend tried to get him to play along with the plot of the dolls, but he continuously informed her that he was playing along. He was the construction crew working on the "yard" and the "road" that her house was on. She went along with it for a little while.
They chit-chatted on and off while "playing with the doll house".
At one point, she tried to engage him in a good ol" "let's pretend" monologue with the dolls and at this point, his eyes glazed over and he stared off down the road.
And she knew, he was done pretending. It was a valiant effort on her part but after this last ditch effort, she said, "wanna go climb the tree" and that snapped him back into reality and back to enjoying her as a friend.
Not once was he rude and told her he didn't want to play, he "played pretend" as best as he could but he definitely DID NOT want to play with the dolls or the doll house. I think we all learned a valuable lesson that day. She learned that Evan does not play pretend and that he does not play with dolls. He learned that girls can be pretty weird. I learned that Evan still can be a kind and thoughtful boy even if he is asked to do something he doesn't want to do. And Jeremy learned that he can't quite trust me as much as he thought he could with his boys! HA!