I am not the poster child for frugality. I try to save money when I can. I clip coupons that I most likely will use. I sign up for newsletters and emails from companies that I love. But other than that, I am not the most frugal person. I don't allow money to dictate what I feel it most important for my families needs. I do make a grocery list every trip and try my hardest to stick to. The one thing that usually isn't concrete are the boys snacks. I usually just write "kids snacks" and get whatever I see that they may like to have.
But recently, I have been asking Evan what types of snacks he would like and I write them on my grocery list. Usually I get him to pare it down to 2 snacks choices. And once at the store I allow him one other snack option, based on what he sees at the store (one impulse buy ;-)). It has worked well. I have had to tell him many times that we couldn't get a certain item because it wasn't on our list. And that if he wanted it, we could put it on next week's list. OR I have let him exchange the item that he wants with another snack item on the list.
I admit, I hate telling him "sorry, that item is not on the list" but since he is my compliant one, he roles with it. After all, I can't have him putting EVERY thing he wants in the cart, we do have a budgeted amount that I try to stick to.
This morning, after meeting his new preschool teachers, he opened up the goody bag that he was given. There were peanut butter crackers in it (you know the orange ones). He HAS NEVER liked those, but since Carter wanted them, he decided to give them another try.
"Yum mom! I never liked these but now I do. Can I put these on the grocery list for next time."
Followed by a cute, "Aaaannnnndddd Mooooommm, don't forget to put it on the list when we get home."
Apparently he is picking up more than I thought about being content with what we have at the time and understanding that we can always add it to the list. I guess it's the little things that make a big imprint on using money wisely, frugality, not allowing impulses to dictate what we buy and contentment!